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Mothers Day . . . Behind The Scenes

I lay in bed this morning rereading my Mothers Day card from my husband, deeply touched by his love and support and it occurred to me that mothers day is so much more than that.

For starters I would not be a mom without the man I love (Brad) who has helped out in making these great kids possible. I have to also say thank you to Wayne (Niki's Dad who has passed on) for the dad that he became.

Brad means so much to me and I love him dearly! He has supported me every day of our many years together. He has worked for over 30 years to support our family. Long days and sometimes nights, not to mention back in the early days a fair share of weekends and overnights at distant locations for business trips. He has helped clean up assorted bodily fluids after one or the other of our children had a cold or flu or threw up or had diarrhea. He’s made emergency hospital runs for beads stuck in the nose, twisted ovaries, bleeding heads and high fevers. He has picked up one child or the other more times than I can remember from one event or another. Play rehearsals, softball practice or a game, baseball practice or a game, gymnastics practice or a meet, movie nights, sleepovers, church events, school events, work pick up or drop off, airports and the list goes on. He has supported me as a new mom, seasoned mother, frustrated mother, ill mother and filled in during the moments I was not able to be there. He has been a partner when his mom was dying and helped me to care for her as she had her last days at home with us. He supports me, our kids, our church, our neighbors, and his colleagues at work. He plays golf with the kids, has movie night with our kids, and in general is a great dad which supports me in being a great mom. He is part of the reason I am a great mom.

I would not also not be a mom were it not for the great kids I have, each one of them means the world to me and I love them dearly! I started out more than a little naïve. I was a very young mom the first time around and though I thought I knew everything, what I knew could likely have fit on the head of a pin. In as much as I was and am their mom, they are my teachers. I’ve learn how to deal with pneumonia in a 1 year old (Niki) who spent her first birthday in the hospital, how to deal with high fevers and wool socks (all three kids – wool socks Tim), allergies (all three again) chipped teeth after falling off a shopping cart (Tim) while also dealing with his sister (Niki) in the back seat of the car on the way to the doctors who was threatening to pass out and throw up from the little bit of blood from Tim’s fall, Migranes, (Tim) twisted ovary (Niki at 16), migraines (Tim), sprained ankles (Fallon) neck and back spasms (Fallon), the loss of a father (Niki’s dad when she was 17) Dehydration with the flu that called for an ER visit and an IV (Fallon) and I could go on. Then there are all the wonderful things that mom taxi does. Softball, baseball, plays, sleepovers, sporting events . . . and so on. I've meet some great parents and some great kids and they have all helped me to be a better mom. They have taught me so much.

Homemade gifts are some of the best. Flower pots, Hand made cards, hand drawn pictures, hand woven yarn pieces, hand made stuffed animals, clay figures, handmade plates, turkey thumbprints, magnets, and countless yummy dinners. All of them are great cooks and each one has made me many meals. Last night for Mothers Day it was home made mac and cheese and bruchetta. Yummo!!!  A meal that our son Tim cooked and one of our favorites. In the past Niki and Fallon have cooked pork loin with apple butter, asparagus and sweet wild rice with saffron. More yummo!

I also need to mention my sister and friend (Barb) who has been on the listening and championing end of more than one phone call as a wonderful mom herself.

Then there are my many friends, one (Patty) who is also like a sister and who has been with me from a tubal pregnancy and a backwards bedpan, to a hospitalization in July of 2008 that brought me to my knees. Others, including Patty have been there to help with many of the things a mom needs, like a listening ear, hugs, celebrations, laughter, tears, parties, weddings, and fried pork steak.

I have beamed pride and shed tears over each of my children because of how proud I am of them. They are amazing, funny, intelligent, caring, creative,  compassionate, loving beings, each of them making a difference in the world in all that they be, do, and are.

Thank you guys for making Mothers Day what it is, each and every year! I can't wait till next year!

I love you!

Mom ~ Nellie

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The Power Of Neutral

The Power Of Neutral . . .

Neutral ® is a really powerful tool.

As long as I have been a HeartMath ® provider and well before, I used some form of neutral usually coming through in my mediation techniques or in studying Buddhism. Yet still I take it deeper and have a richer understanding of what neutral or detachment means.

The other day I was exploring my beliefs and looking at them, some I did not even realize that I had. What lead me to it was a conversation that I had had with my husband and daughter and how I had found myself snapping at them. I looked at that and saw it as an automatic response based on a belief that had nothing at all to do with present time.

Over the course of the next couple of days (and I am still exploring this) I began to explore my automatic responses and beliefs. Expectations of how I felt people 'should' be. Expectations are one of those areas that I coach with clients all the time and I use the tools with myself all the time. Yet here I was looking at myself in the light of neutral and of expectations from a very deep space.

What I have realized for myself is that many of my expectations have been hidden underneath beliefs and both of those things on an underlying belief level. I make a distinction between Core Beliefs ®  as HeartMath uses them, and Underlying Beliefs - that thanks to a Visionary Business ® course I have been taking through the mentorship of Marc Allen,  co-founder of New World Library and author of many books.

He brought up the idea that Core Beliefs can seem more solid, like cement, where as Underlying Beliefs are something that can be more pliable to change. Something to consider and I have been. So now I am being very aware in my thoughts and my reactions to people, places, things, memories. Proactive rather than reactive. That old saying about not putting your foot in your mouth.

I'm realizing that for me the best thing I can do is to give myself time and really process before I respond to something. On the one hand it might seem like a lot of energy and effort to do that. What I am realizing however is that it is simply about being in the NOW. If I am in the NOW, to the best of my ability, I am in neutral, not processing something past or future, and expectations which to me are based on one of those two things, don't happen. So now I am doing my best to be in the NOW (Eckhart Tolle - The Power Of Now), knowing I am Spirit in human form, taking it one day at a time. It's really eye opening and inspiring to be aware of myself from such a centered place when I am able to do it. It's a tool I have been using with my clients but never at this level. From here forward  with my new awareness, that changes.

Blessings,

Nellie

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