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WyseWomen Wellness © My Journey With HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating Program Day 11

With the best of intentions to post every day, here I am, day 11. A few days have passed since my last post and I have been very busy. Good busy, but busy.

I'm flip-flopping the order of my comments and instead of speaking to my exercise and activities I'm speaking more about my process with the HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating Program.

As I've shared I'm working with this program because it is the best way for me to truly understand what my clients are experiencing as they work with the program, and it also supports my own wellness process.

I've come to see that HeartMath's program is really the place to focus from my own personal experience with this process. Exercise is important, but what I see, at least for myself anyway is that mindset, heartset, if you will is even more important. What are my emotions doing?

I worked very diligently with exercise the first few days (my choice and it is not part of the HeartMath program) and then things became very busy here with guests from out of town, and entertainment and parties for same. We had a great time and I'm so glad they could come. On the other hand the daily EA Sports process came to a halt while other forms of exercise took over. House cleaning every day, garden work, clean up during and after the party and then other household things after they left. I came to the conclusion that I still had a great workout and that what was most important was my heart and mindset. I also understood that I could exercise at a much gentler pace and be kinder to my body.

Yes, still a part of me judged myself and from that place I began to explore my emotions and began to see how much sense the Emotional Eating Program makes by not focusing on exercise and scales.

If I get caught up in the exercise process and what I weigh and then listen to the tapes playing in my head about how much I weigh I'm missing the point. It is truly about how I feel. What am I feeling when I reach for food or some other activity to quiet my feelings? It's about how I go to the tools to get to my hearts truth instead of ignoring my feelings. I feel like I have a deeper insight into what my clients are going through and feeling than I did.

I have had only minor challenges with my weight over the years. I've weighed as much as 180 (post childbirth) and as little as the low 100's as an adult and it is not hard for me to shift my weight. My set point in my adult years has been around 150 give or take a few pounds.

Members of my family have had obesity challenges and the health conditions that can sometimes go along with them. Heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, etc. I always felt there was a connection between family emotional pain and the weight, it felt obvious to me, and now working with this program and knowing my family history as I do I can see the links back to the emotional eating even clearer.

I'll continue to post as I move through the Stopping Emotional Eating process. As always I learn and grow so much in the coaching process.

Blessings,

Nellie

HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating: The emWave Stress and Weight Management Program is a Registered Trademark of HeartMath LLC

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Please Note, the information and services provided by or through WyseWomen LLC, WyseWomen Wellness ©,  WyseWomen.com, WyseWomen the Blog, Magdalene Abbey, and Nellie P. Moore are not to be used to treat or diagnose any condition, disease, client, patient, or individual. The ideas, information and services provided are not intended to be a substitute for consult or treatment with a qualified physician, therapist, or other qualified helping professional.

WyseWomen Wellness © My Journey With HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating Program Day 3

  Day three. I decided to mix it up today and create my own routine with the EA Sports program. Next time I'll look at exactly what the exercises are before I do this. By and large it was a great workout and high intensity mixed with a few moments of WHAT WAS I THINKING!!!

Think a standing squat is easy??? If your toned and fit perhaps but if your thighs are used to the run of the mill kinds of things like climbing stairs or bending over for the kids or the pets or a little gardening, Think again.

That was the longest squat of my life, or so it seemed. The boxing targets and punching bag were great and so was the tennis. I'm finding the things that I particularly like, though I know I get to stretch my comfort zone so I don't get bored. Good stuff and lots of sweat. Still a little sore but better,

On HeartMaths ® Stopping Emotional Eating Program I'm continuing to see the importance that my heart plays in this. Having compassion for  myself is really important. Most days I do pretty good. Then there are hump days or moments (usually it's just moments these days) where I should myself. My workout routine today was one of those times when I set myself up to do sixteen activity's and realized that one of them that used the Wii Balance board was not going to happen. My coordination with stepping on and off the board and swinging a tennis racket are just not there yet, Giggle . . .

So I had a few moments of judgment for myself that I did not finish all sixteen. A bit later I sat down to read more of the HeartMath program and lo and behold was reminded, "You can drop your inner critic", It goes on to speak about letting go of measuring sticks, in my case measuring tapes.

Just use one of the tools. Go to my heart and know that there is no wrong way to go about this. I love that. 

It reminds me of the work that I do as a Wellness Inventory Coach. One of the tools I work with with clients are "Excuses are Valid". Life happens and you can let it derail you or just take note of what was on the track, clear it and move on. That's my metaphor here for looking at what I was feeling when I judged myself that I 'should' have done all sixteen. Going to my heart I knew that what I did was just perfect and amazing and how I feel is what matters.

Appreciation for my body that I can exercise, at whatever level that is on any given day. Appreciation that I am being supported by the HeartMath program. Just lots of appreciation.

I read something today that I love.

" Provide assistance by means of example, enlightening without interference" Yolanda through Judy Dix.

So my path is to assist others as a coach by sharing my experience, when asked, and not get in the way of it, do not interfere in the process.

That really fits for me and if feels like it is who I am as a coach. I work and play daily for this to be more true.

So here I am sharing my experience by example, intending that through my sharing I assist someone else.

How cool is that!

Okay, the girls will be here in a couple of hours and I still have a couple of things to do so I'm off.

Blessings,

Nellie

HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating: The emWave Stress and Weight Management Program is a Registered Trademark of HeartMath LLC

Disclaimer:

Please Note, the information and services provided by or through WyseWomen LLC, WyseWomen Wellness ©,  WyseWomen.com, WyseWomen the Blog, Magdalene Abbey, and Nellie P. Moore are not to be used to treat or diagnose any condition, disease, client, patient, or individual. The ideas, information and services provided are not intended to be a substitute for consult or treatment with a qualified physician, therapist, or other qualified helping professional.

WyseWomen Wellness © My Journey With HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating Program Day 2

So day two of my posting, day three of my program. Today is a day off in the exercise routine of EA Sports so I just did a weigh in and balance test with my My Wii Fit program. Down .7 pounds. Weighing myself everyday is not something I need to do, I just choose to do it. It's a personal choice. Some people like to wait to see an overall larger weight loss after several days. My knowledge of programs that are out there is that weight in is not everyday. As I said, a personal choice.

Pretty sore last night but it is much better today.Even though I am sore I feel better in my body. It grounds me.

So today is a day off from the actual EA program but none the less I went outside to mow the dogs run and found myself going from the pen to the garden area and mowing it, then to the front of our house and mowing in front of the flower beds and the smaller front of the house garden. Then there was the weeding in the same areas. The rest of the almost three acres will get the riding mower. Needless to say I worked up a good sweat and heart rate and now I'm inside getting reading for the wonderful girl invasion of some of my daughters BFF's (can I use that term?) for a few days. Lots of fun!

On the emotional side of this I'm working the HeartMath ® program and looking at when I eat and why. Besides the normal three meals a day (usually with me it is two meals a day) there are often later in the evening snacks. I've been thinking about this and realizing that it really is a change of habit for me.

For most of my adult life I've tended to have two meals a day, because it is when I have been hungry. What I've also realized is that the hour that we eat our evening meal is often after 7PM most nights. Then dessert later.

So last night and today I've been thinking about this. What I have come up with is related to emotional eating, to my surprise. I really did not think I was eating this way and guess what, I have been.

We eat late because my husband comes home later in the day after the drive from work and emotionally I feel like we 'should' be eating together as a family so we wait for him. I realized last night that I feel bad or wrong if I don't wait for him. And if I don't eat with him somehow I don't care about him. I realize that I have made eating an emotional bond with him, and my kids too. Goodness knows that I am not alone in this. It is society wide. Food is the way we think to soothe, bond, nurture etc.

I realize that all of the above patterns are my stuff. I was the one last night saying yes I will have a bowl of ice cream with peaches when he asked me, because I wanted to 'be' with him. Unconsciously I realized I was using this as an example of 'I care for you so I will eat with you', and this was all unconscious. Wow! This is not anything he ever asked me to do. I realize I just made this internal choice somewhere along the way to do this.

I can see these are old patterns for me. Who knew! So now I get to look at this and make new choices for why I am eating something and be more self aware. I also get to find new ways to bond and nurture with my kids instead of it being about food and me asking them 'Are you eating?', or  'Did you eat?, or 'I'll wait for you'.

There are other ways for me, for us to bond as a family and in making new choices for myself I sense it is going to be great for all of us.

I can see that the eating thing for me has been about what HeartMath calls 'overcare' and back in the day they called co-dependancy. "Caring" for others when they have not even asked for my help. Caring beyond my boundaries. This particularly relates to my family. I've done a lot of work on myself over the years and this is another new level of awareness. Cool! Seems my heart is even wiser than I thought.

I'm seeing so much and it's only day three.

Off to do some cleaning before the girls arrive!

Blessings,

Nellie

HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating: The emWave Stress and Weight Management Program is a Registered Trademark of HeartMath LLC

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Please Note, the information and services provided by or through WyseWomen LLC, WyseWomen Wellness ©,  WyseWomen.com, WyseWomen the Blog, Magdalene Abbey, and Nellie P. Moore are not to be used to treat or diagnose any condition, disease, client, patient, or individual. The ideas, information and services provided are not intended to be a substitute for consult or treatment with a qualified physician, therapist, or other qualified helping professional.

WyseWomen Wellness © My Journey With HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating Program

I just finished day two of EA Sports 'Active ™ Personal trainer'. I worked up a pretty good sweat, not to mention cardio and muscle building. I give it five aching muscles - the equivalent to five stars, LOL.  My favorite exercise right now is boxing and kick boxing and rollerblading.

I'm doing this as a part of HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating: The emWave Stress and Weight Management Program.

While the HeartMath program is not about exercise or diet, it's about what you are feeling, I feel motivated to add the EA Wii game as I make my way through the program. I've been a HeartMath 1 on 1 Provider since 2001 and each year I get to witness wonderful new programs that are created to support wellness.

HeartMath's ® Stopping Emotional Eating: The emWave Stress and Weight Management Program is the newest of the programs and so far I am loving it. As a wellness coach and HeartMath Provider I feel it's important to not only coach the program with the enthusiasm and love of HeartMath that I have, but also to be able to say I'm using the tools myself and applying them in my life. That's really important to me. I feel I can be a much better coach if I have walked my talk and know the program from first hand experience.

So this is day two and I'm feeling the burn and also feeling better already. Though I am sore I feel a sense of empowerment. I am much more aware of what I am eating already, and questioning why I am eating it. Using the HeartMath tools and going to my heart to be clear and making good choices.

I'm excited to be working and playing with this program for my own personal results, and really feeling the buzz knowing I am taking what I learning and using it to support my clients! Go Me.

I'm going to post daily on my progress with this and share how it's going.

My starting weight is 157, Ht 5.5. Biceps 12in, bust 38in, and hips 43in. I can feel the changes already!

The picture above is my wonderful sister Barb and I in May of this year, during one of our favorite activities, antiquing in Belton, Texas. I'm a little round of form and growing chicken wings. Let's see how I progress.

Wanna join me?  A Change of Heart Changes Everything ®

Blessings,

Nellie

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Please Note, the information and services provided by or through WyseWomen LLC, WyseWomen Wellness ©,  WyseWomen.com, WyseWomen the Blog, Magdalene Abbey, and Nellie P. Moore are not to be used to treat or diagnose any condition, disease, client, patient, or individual. The ideas, information and services provided are not intended to be a substitute for consult or treatment with a qualified physician, therapist, or other qualified helping professional.

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Institute of HeartMath ® - Three Soldiers Express Their Gratitude

Robert Russell Sr. My Dad - Korean War, Indian Head 2nd Infantry Division

HeartMath ® Interventions are currently meeting the mental, emotional,and physical needs of many traumatized troops returning from the war.

My father returned from the Korean War a different man than when he left. What he saw on the fields of battle changed him. He was diagnosed with Shell Shock, which they now call PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He spent the majority of the remainder of his life living with the trauma of what he saw and lived as an infantry soldier. He brought home with him a fear of death and dying. The need to control his environment. Disabilities from frostbite. He spent months and years at a time in Veterans Administration Hospitals. We saw little of him as children and I never understood his fears or need to control. I grew up somehow thinking I could fix it and for a time taking on his pain and fears.

I know differently now. I wish that programs such as HeartMaths Military Warrior Initiative existed at the time my dad came home from the military. Both for him, and for us as his family. I sense that things would have been very different for us and he would have experienced the healing and peace he deserved.

Our oldest daughter Niki's dad, Wayne was also an Army Reservist and he did his part in service to our country as have many of our ancestors.

Maybe you know a returning Soldier who could benefit from this program.

To learn more about the program visit the links below.

Learn more from Three Soldiers here

HeartMath Military Warrior Initiative

HeartMath Military Service Appreciation Fund

Listen to a tribute to our Soldiers here

Rest Well Dad . . .

Blessings,

Nellie

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Please Note, the information and services provided by or through WyseWomen LLC, WyseWomen Wellness ©,  WyseWomen.com, WyseWomen the Blog, Magdalene Abbey, and Nellie P. Moore are not to be used to treat or diagnose any condition, disease, client, patient, or individual. The ideas, information and services provided are not intended to be a substitute for consult or treatment with a qualified physician, therapist, or other qualified helping professional.